Lessons Learned from 2014

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Lessons Learned from 2014

Another year has flown by and I look back with pride. 2014 was the year that defined my space. It showed me the difference I could make with my uniqueness. What a difference a year can make. 365 days of awesomeness

I was always afraid, scared and never moved out of my comfort zone. People’s perception continued to haunt me. I became a slave to the boundaries that I had drawn for myself. Will I ever be free? The questions continued.

It was time to re-discover and re-define myself. Writing was my gateway to the outside world. Ever since I started writing I have never been afraid to bare it all. I have heard people quote “Sex sells”.   The past one year has taught me that honesty sells too. The more I opened up I realized that I wasn’t alone. Every crowd has that one person who wants to break free. For the very first time I felt good about being different.

Every person has that one unique skill that defines their personality. It lies dormant within us. The sooner you identify your dormant skill the greater your chance of success. Always remember. “The Answer lies within”. Dig deeper to lay your hands on the treasure”.

It’s been three years since I started writing. For almost two years I wrote without an audience. It haunted me every single day. What am I going to do? How will I make sure my words have the desired impact? It was then that I realized that making my dream a reality wouldn’t be possible if I travel alone. I needed a lift from someone who could show me the way. I prefer to call them helping hand that would ease the burden of my long journey.

It is very important to surround ourselves with like minded individuals who will give you the much needed push to accomplish your goals. Along the way be prepared to reach out to people who might need your hand to reach their destination. You can never do it all by yourself.

Never yearn for the spotlight. Many a lives have been ruined in search of fleeting moments of fame. Fame is like a drug. It clouds your mind and leaves you in a haze and before you realize the whole purpose is lost. Work on your goals instead and the spotlight will fall on you when you least expect it and your whole life might just turn out to be an extended Christmas vacation.

Salesh Dipak Fernando

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I am Salesh… People call me differently abled..  I consider myself special. I feel privileged to be able to things which others cannot. This blog is just a way of expressing myself and connecting with you people.

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Lesson Learned from Dad

 

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Lessons Learned from Dad

Birthdays bring special memories. This whole month would have been a celebration if he had been with us. But sadly he chose to leave us early. I guess God missed his benevolence much more than we did. What lessons could I possibly pass on to my readers? In more ways than one it was a life well lived. A life filled with hope, love and inspiration. Let me just pick out some valuable lessons which I learnt by just being with him.

LOVE ALL: This is the first, most important and perhaps the most difficult lesson to observe in life for matter how genuine we are the world around us seems unfair but he did it so effortlessly till the very end. I have tried to walk in his footsteps till date. Trust me it’s difficult but spreading love has given me people who have stood by me through thick and thin. Forget the hurt and embrace love.

DREAM BIG: He was a fisherman’s son from the remote villages of RAMESWARAM. He was just a tiny part of a very large family with hardly any financial support but that didn’t deter him from dreaming big. Though medicine was his first love he ended up being a Chartered Accountant. His pursuit didn’t end there though. My little brother is now a doctor. The seed which was sown many years ago has now begun to bear fruit.

TOUCH LIVES: Dad’s life isn’t measured by the number of years he lived but by the number of lives he had touched throughout his journey. He just knew instinctively when to lend a hand to someone in need. I have never heard him say no nor did he expect anything in return. His no demands- no expectations still holds good for me too. All the goodness that people see in me is just a mere reflection of what I got from him.

BE THE CHANGE: “Your life is nothing but a reflection of the choices that you have made”. That’s what dad used to say every time I went into self pity mode. If your life seems unfair change it and re-structure it the way you want it to be. Your fate is in your hands. Stop blaming and start trying for I know you can. I guess I have given my life the best possible shot I can and I guess I owe it all to his immense faith in my abilities.

 

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I am Salesh… People call me differently abled..  I consider myself special. I feel privileged to be able to things which others cannot. This blog is just a way of expressing myself and connecting with you people.

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Lesson Learned from being Differently Abled

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Lessons Learned from being Differently Abled

Where do I begin or in this case how do I begin? I saw this world in just 7 months which meant I had a permanent glitch – Cerebral Palsy, a rare permanent condition which left me a limp. To be frank the beginning was fun for I didn’t have any idea why I was being pampered so much.

There was rarely any discrimination when I started out. For those innocent hearts at school I was one of them. My disability didn’t matter to them one bit. I was the star kid at school and excelled in everything. It was all roses and I didn’t have any idea of what the real world had in store for me.

As I grew up I saw people giving me a cold stare wherever I went. The harsh realities began to sink in.  I was hardly prepared for this period of isolation. I was the untouchable, the glitch. My world turned upside down in the blink of an eye. A period of self – pity followed. Oh God why me was a constant question until the day I read about Nick Vujicic. This guy didn’t have limbs but was inspiring everyone.

I realized then and there that it was always going to be difficult but I had to find a way to survive and inspire everybody. It wasn’t going to be easy but I was determined to fight it out. The very first to redemption was focussing on what I could do rather than what I couldn’t. Some tough choices followed.

The stares did continue but I chose to ignore and be myself.  I was relentless, stubborn and never gave up. What followed was a period of unlearning and re-learning. The scars began to vanish and people could see what I was really capable of.

Always listen to your heart and focus on your destination. Never let the hurdles bother you they are nothing but stepping stones to your moment of glory.  There will always be people waiting to pull you down just ignore them. Surround yourself with the right people.  I call them helping hands for they are a constant reminder of how beautiful life can be. Absorb the positive energy that surrounds them and use it transform yourself. It isn’t going to be easy but never ever give up.

Always remember the 3 R principle rediscover, relearn and rejuvenate yourself time and again.

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Salesh Dipak Fernando

 

I am Salesh… People call me differently abled.. I consider myself special. I feel privileged to be able to things which others cannot. This blog is just a way of expressing myself and connecting with you people.

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