To flow along with the river,
To sway along with the breeze,
To allow change to change me
And still hold my ground
To resist is to lock ourselves from change, both good and bad.
Resistance could be good when one resists something that will harm us in the long run- a temptation, a need to follow the trodden path just because it seems safer, resistance to domination by values, peoples, lifestyles which do not sit well with one’s own grain etc.
I am talking about the type of resistance one may face when about to do something that is good, healthful for us or the sort one faces when we simply like don’t like doing something, for eg: paperwork or the administrative duties that are attached to one’s task.
Greater the need bigger the resistance
I have found that the more necessary something is to me the greater the need to resist it. For eg: I teach yoga and I know that the Neti kriya, which is the process of pouring saline luke warm water into one nostril and allowing it to come out through the other nostril is to be done by me regularly to keep sinusitis and other ENT issues at bay. It is quite simple to execute as well. Do I do it regularly? I wish I could say yes.
I can make excuses about not having time, about being busy in the mornings trying to get my little one ready for school and fed breakfast in time. I won’t, because an excuse is always a sham, a cover-up. The thing with Kriyas is they have to be done first thing in the morning, on an empty stomach after a little joint loosening. So all I have to do is sleep a little earlier, wake up half an hour early and do my Neti. I am working on this is all I can say here.
Another point of resistance is with paperwork. Bank work, at the college, immigration and so on. It has to be done, there’s no running away.
Why the resistance?
I tend to stall, postpone till I just have to do it. The mind steps in to say, “oh! This is so boring, why don’t we leave it for now, why don’t we do something more interesting, more exciting.” The mind feeds off what it labels as ‘interesting’ and soon sets a pattern of resistance. The trick is to separate oneself from all this tomfoolery going on within ourselves and see it for what it is.
For me, separating myself and enabling myself to do whatever needs be done is possible with focusing on the exhale. For you it could be another method. As I focus on the exhale breath going down towards my legs and the inhale breath rising towards my head, every resisting thought drops away.
So, when resistance to anything to be done, person or a feeling crops up within me, I now have begun to search for the root of it. It is illuminating to say the least.
About Sunila Vig
Sunila lived in Australia for twelve years and all over India as a child. Now she lives in Bangalore, India with her family.
She is a lecturer of Communication to MBA students and is a practising Yoga teacher.
Sunila was introduced to books by book-loving parents at an early age and devoured them at every opportunity. Nature, music and art mean a lot to her and she loves solitude and noisy fun in equal measure.
She expresses herself through a variety of creative channels-singing, pottery, sketching and writing. Sunila writes fiction and poetry both in English and Hindi. Her debut collection of short stories in Hindi, “Nirjharr”, was published by the Karnataka Hindi Sahitya Parishad. Poetry and short stories authored by her have been published in a variety of medium. She is a Post graduate in English Literature from Kuvempu University in the verdant Malnad region of Karnataka, that has given the world a large number of writers and artists.
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