I first met him as Mrs Doubtfire and instantly fell in love with him. He was a performer, who could bring smiles on million faces, instantly! His sudden death came as a big shock to me. And what made me even more upset was that it was suicide. His smiles hid all the pain…such an irony, isn’t it?
I was 19 when I had tried to commit suicide, not once…but twice! I still remember the feeling, as if something inside me had died and I was living like a zombie. I had everything, as my Appa had aptly put. I had clothes to wear, food to eat, place to stay and had money to go to college and study…then why did I decide to put an end to my life? I was feeling worthless and this feeling was eating every single part of me. I didn’t know how to get over that feeling and the only way I could find to end this throbbing pain was to cut my wrist. And I did it….but the Almighty had other plans, I survived…
Robin William’s death teaches us the importance of our mental health. We take so much care of our priced possessions like TV, car, mobile phone suicide. I can feel the pain, as I too had tried to commit suicide at a very low point in my life.
Like our body, our mind too at times hits the low, but what if we gain control and have the immense ability to switch states.
Reach out to friends, well wishers or healers and therapists. At times talking and sharing can save lives. Let us remember Robin Williams and the splendid roles he played!, expensive sarees and crockery, but when it comes to our mental health, we are negligent. We keep carrying the burden of the past in the form of hatred and guilt not realizing that they are just like a virus which will eventually eat up our peace.
When that happens, what we can do is ask for help. When equipment breaks down, we call for mechanics to repair them instantly, then why do we hesitate to ask for help when it comes to mental breakdown? It is perfectly okay to seek help from a therapist or friend or a well-wisher. At times a third perspective gives us more clarity and helps us get over things, quickly.
We may not know what the other person is going through, so we need to be kind, for everyone we meet is fighting a battle within. The least we can do is respect others and accept them as they are. If you know someone who is going through a rough phase, talk to them; hug them, maybe that’s what they are looking for.
People who are depressed are operating from the level of feelings; the emptiness engulfs them so much that they wish to end their life. At that time, as a therapist, friend, parent, sibling or well-wisher all you need to do is step into their emptiness and feel like them…maybe for few moments. Then, immediately show them how beautiful the world is with them in it and tell them that they are very important in your life.
If you can do this successfully, then you can save a life! Today, I am grateful that God has chosen me as a medium to touch and transform lives through my NLP therapy. I feel satisfied to see my clients getting over limiting beliefs and unhealthy relationships.
Our mind is a beautiful garden, let us nourish it well, so that the flowers keep blooming and the fragrance keeps spreading…even more!
A curious student of Life, Gayatri believes in the power of Dreams. She quit her career as a Research Associate to follow her passion of writing and interacting with people. A Master Practitioner of NLP, she is a NLP Healer and a life coach. She can be found at “Outside the Kitchen Window” (firstname.lastname@example.org ) wielding her magical wand to pen her thoughts, poems, fictitious stories, mouth-tingling recipes and book